समाज में यह धारणा है जो घर से बाहर कम करे वह जॉब में और जो घर के अंदर काम करे, उसका कोई मोल नहीं। भारतीय समाज में हर गृहिणी को कहीं-न-कहीं इससे दो-चार होना पड़ता है। तमाम कागजातों में 'हॉउस वाईफ' का आप्शन तो है पर 'मदर' का नहीं। सरकारी कागजातों में जब महिलाएं किसी खांचे में फिट नहीं बैठती तो उन्हें 'हॉउस वाईफ' कॉलम में अंकित कर दिया जाता है। इसी मसले पर एक महिला ने बड़ा ही खूबसूरत और प्रभावी ई-मेल भेजा था, जिसे आप सबके साथ शेयर कर रही हूँ। आप भी पढ़िए, सोचिये, गुनिये और फिर कुछ कहिये -
The officer at the Driving License counter asked the lady-"What is your occupation?"
The woman seeking renewal of her license seemed to be puzzled. So the officer said "Ma'am, are you employed, have your own business or...?"
The woman replied- "Oh, yes! I have a full time occupation. I am a mother."
Officer: "We don't have 'mother' as an option for occupation.
I will write it down as 'Housewife'. That takes care of all questions."
This had happened long ago, and was forgotten. Years later when I went to get my license, the Public Relations Officer was a somewhat pompous woman.
"Your occupation?" she asked in a rather authoritative tone.
I am a Mother, but I just had an inspiration and replied "I am a researcher in the field of Child Development, Nutrition and Inter-personal Relationships"
The lady officer stared at me in amazement. I calmly repeated my statement and she wrote it down verbatim. Then, unable to conceal her curiosity, she politely asked "What exactly do You do in your profession, Ma'am?"
I was feeling good about having described my occupation so calmly and confidently. So I replied "My research projects have been going on for a number of years (Mothers never retire!!). My research is conducted in the laboratory as well as in the field. I have two bosses. (One is God and theother is my entire family). I have received two honours in this field. (A son and a daughter). My topic is consideredto be the most difficult part of sociology. (All moms will agree!!) . I have to work more than 14 hours every day. Sometimes even 24 hours are not enough and the challenges are tougher than many other professions. My compensation is interms of mental satisfaction rather than money."
I could see that the officer was thoroughly impressed. After completing the licensing formalities, she came to the door to see me off.
This new viewpoint about my occupation made me feel much better on my way back home. I was welcomed by my 5 year old research assistant at the door. My new project (my 6 month old baby) was energetically practicing her 'music'.
I had earned a small victory over the Governmental red tape today. I was no longer 'merely a mother', instead I was now a highly placed functionary in a service vital for mankind -Motherhood !!
'Mother' - Isn't it a great title. Fit to be added to the nameplate on the door!! By this standard, grandmothers deserve to be called Senior Research Officers, and Great Grandmothers qualify as 'Research Directors'. Aunts and other ladies of that age group can be called 'Research Facilitators.'
Please share this with all mothers, grandmothers, great grandmothers and all ladies. They will all shower you with blessings and life will be happier.